Rewriting the Narrative: How an “Effective List” Can Help You Hold On in Hard Times There are moments in life when everything feels heavy. Days when the negatives are so loud, it’s hard to remember that good things have ever existed. During these times, your mind can become a filter that only lets in the…
How Hard Times Become Your Superpower Why resilience grows through struggle — and how you’re stronger than you think. I want to talk to you today about something we all go through: hard times. Maybe you’re in one right now. Maybe you’re just coming out of one. Or maybe you’re carrying the weight of something…
Let’s talk about something I see all the time—both in therapy and in everyday life. It’s the pressure to prove yourself. I often refer to it as internal vs external validation. Have you ever finished something you were proud of, only to second-guess it because no one else noticed? Or maybe you did something brave—like…
When the Sky Turns Dark: Facing Storm Anxiety with Resilience and Calm Springtime in Oklahoma is beautiful—but let’s be honest, it can also be scary. Have you ever wondered if you may have storm anxiety? If you’ve lived here long, you know what I mean. The sky changes color, the clouds look spooky, and your…
Finding Freedom: Healing Religious Trauma While Living in the Bible Belt For many people here in the Bible Belt, religious culture is not just a part of life—it is life. Churches often sit on every corner, and faith-based language is woven into daily conversations, school systems, politics, and social expectations. For some, this environment offers…
Financial Self-Care: Healing Your Relationship with Money When you think about self-care, what comes to mind? Maybe it’s rest, healthy meals, or spending time with people who make you feel good. But what about financial self-care? For many, money is not just a practical concern—it’s emotional. It can bring up fear, shame, and even avoidance….
5 Steps to Spring Clean the Mental Clutter Spring is here, and with it comes the urge to refresh, reset, and renew. We pull out cleaning supplies, clear out closets, and open windows to let fresh air in. But what about our mental clutter? Mental clutter—negative thoughts, self-doubt, and emotional baggage—can be just as overwhelming…
The Hidden Harm of Toxic Positivity: Why “Good Vibes Only” Isn’t Always Good Have you ever been told to “just stay positive” when you were struggling? If so, you’ve experienced toxic positivity—this idea that we should always be happy, no matter what. While positivity can be a powerful tool, forcing ourselves (or others) to be…
Are They Just Lucky? Or Is It Mindset? How Scarcity, Abundance, and Negative Bias Shape Your Reality Have you ever looked at someone else’s life and thought, They’re just so lucky? Maybe they always seem to be in the right place at the right time. Or they land amazing opportunities effortlessly or they are the…
Guilt vs. Shame – Understanding the Difference and Reclaiming Your Worth What is the difference between guilt and shame? Have you ever made a mistake and thought, I shouldn’t have done that? That’s guilt. But what about the times you’ve thought, I’m such a terrible person? That’s shame. There’s a big difference between the two,…