Rewriting the Narrative: How an “Effective List” Can Help You Hold On in Hard Times There are moments in life when everything feels heavy. Days when the negatives are so loud, it’s hard to remember that good things have ever existed. During these times, your mind can become a filter that only lets in the…
Let’s talk about something I see all the time—both in therapy and in everyday life. It’s the pressure to prove yourself. I often refer to it as internal vs external validation. Have you ever finished something you were proud of, only to second-guess it because no one else noticed? Or maybe you did something brave—like…
Financial Self-Care: Healing Your Relationship with Money When you think about self-care, what comes to mind? Maybe it’s rest, healthy meals, or spending time with people who make you feel good. But what about financial self-care? For many, money is not just a practical concern—it’s emotional. It can bring up fear, shame, and even avoidance….
5 Steps to Spring Clean the Mental Clutter Spring is here, and with it comes the urge to refresh, reset, and renew. We pull out cleaning supplies, clear out closets, and open windows to let fresh air in. But what about our mental clutter? Mental clutter—negative thoughts, self-doubt, and emotional baggage—can be just as overwhelming…
The Hidden Harm of Toxic Positivity: Why “Good Vibes Only” Isn’t Always Good Have you ever been told to “just stay positive” when you were struggling? If so, you’ve experienced toxic positivity—this idea that we should always be happy, no matter what. While positivity can be a powerful tool, forcing ourselves (or others) to be…
Guilt vs. Shame – Understanding the Difference and Reclaiming Your Worth What is the difference between guilt and shame? Have you ever made a mistake and thought, I shouldn’t have done that? That’s guilt. But what about the times you’ve thought, I’m such a terrible person? That’s shame. There’s a big difference between the two,…
The Let Them Theory by Mel Robbins – A Therapist’s Review Have you ever found yourself exhausted from trying to manage other people’s reactions, behaviors, or feelings? If so, Mel Robbins’ latest book, The Let Them Theory, offers a simple but profound perspective shift that can bring you relief. As a therapist, I see people…
Are You a Dog or Cat When It Comes to Boundaries Are you a dog or a cat when it comes to how you set boundaries? I want you to imagine two very different animals: a dog and a cat. The dog is loving, eager, and always by your side, ready to please. If you…
Feeling Bullied by Politics? Take Back Your Peace and Power Have you felt overwhelmed, exhausted, or even bullied by politics in today’s climate? You’re not alone. Every day, it seems like the news, social media, and even personal conversations are filled with tension, division, and strong opinions. It can feel like you’re constantly being pushed…
The Surprising Truth About People Pleasing If you’re someone who struggles with people-pleasing, chances are you’ve spent a lot of your life taking responsibility for other people’s feelings, needs, and actions. It might feel like second nature to smooth things over, keep the peace, or ensure everyone else is happy—even when it costs you. You…