Have you ever driven down an old dirt road that hasn’t been maintained in a long time? The tires before you have carved deep grooves into the ground. Over time, those grooves turn into ruts. When your tires fall into them, the car almost drives itself. You can hold the steering wheel, but the road…
EMDR Therapy Intensives for Burnout and Trauma: A Deeper Path to Healing If you’re a woman feeling overwhelmed, anxious, and emotionally exhausted, you’re not alone. Many of the women I work with are: On the outside, you look capable. On the inside, your nervous system feels like it never shuts off. Burnout isn’t always about…
A Tree Doesn’t Apologize for Being a Tree Have you ever noticed how a tree doesn’t try to be anything other than a tree? It doesn’t rush to grow. It bends with the wind. It rests in winter and blooms in spring. And somehow, it always knows just what to do next. In other words…
Rewriting the Narrative: How an “Effective List” Can Help You Hold On in Hard Times There are moments in life when everything feels heavy. Days when the negatives are so loud, it’s hard to remember that good things have ever existed. During these times, your mind can become a filter that only lets in the…
Hit Reset by Savoing Small Moments Life moves quickly, and in the hustle and bustle of everyday responsibilities, we often overlook the small moments that can bring us peace and healing. Yet, these small moments—like a warm hug from a loved one, the feeling of your pet’s love, or the beauty of a sunset—can be…
Boundaries Aren’t Selfish: The Oxygen Mask Rule for Wellness I want to talk to you about something very near and dear to my heart personally and professionally—the difference between setting a boundary and being selfish. Because it is very imporant to know that boundaries aren’t selfish! As a therapist, I work with a lot of…
The Quiet Cost of Making Yourself Smaller Why Women and Minorities Often Shrink Themselves in a World That Expects It I was in the very crowded Seattle airport recently when it hit me again. Dragging my bag through the terminal, I found myself twisting sideways, shrinking my shoulders, sidestepping people as if I were a…
How Hard Times Become Your Superpower Why resilience grows through struggle — and how you’re stronger than you think. I want to talk to you today about something we all go through: hard times. Maybe you’re in one right now. Maybe you’re just coming out of one. Or maybe you’re carrying the weight of something…
Let’s talk about something I see all the time—both in therapy and in everyday life. It’s the pressure to prove yourself. I often refer to it as internal vs external validation. Have you ever finished something you were proud of, only to second-guess it because no one else noticed? Or maybe you did something brave—like…
When the Sky Turns Dark: Facing Storm Anxiety with Resilience and Calm Springtime in Oklahoma is beautiful—but let’s be honest, it can also be scary. Have you ever wondered if you may have storm anxiety? If you’ve lived here long, you know what I mean. The sky changes color, the clouds look spooky, and your…